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Saturday, October 24, 2009

an old college friend posted this link.  i found it pretty compelling ... food for thought.  even if you don't believe, it is an interesting perspective.  (written by my former college campus pastor.)
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Were it not for moral outrage America would be under British rule and the Emancipation Proclamation would never have been penned. Moral outrage, by its very definition, is the intersection of morality and deep seated convictions. The following are 10 reasons for moral outrage:

1. Our forefathers acknowledged our creator God in the Declaration of Independence, but we are forbidden to acknowledge him in our public schools.
2. Our entertainment industry glamorizes sexuality yet is held unaccountable despite the rising rate of out-of-wedlock teenage pregnancies.
3. Moral relativism continues to reign in our public schools even though a nation reaps the results of such relativism with unprecedented greed on Wall Street.
4. 39.8 million people live below the poverty line in America -- over 14.1 million of them are children -- yet close to 100 billion pounds of food is wasted each year.
5. There have been over 50 million abortions since Roe vs. Wade became the law of the land with the vast majority being for no other reason than simple birth control.
6. Darwinism is taught as fact while Creationism is excluded from the American classroom.
7. More Christians were killed for their faith in the 20th century than in the entire history of Christianity.
8. A cross erected in 1934, at a WWI memorial site in the Mojave Desert, is currently at the center of a debate over whether or not its presence violates the Constitution. 
9. The Ten Commandments have been taken from our court houses.
10. The community of faith is, in large measure, quiet and complacent.

It has been said that all that is needed for evil to prevail is for good men to do nothing. Ultimately we will be judged not by our titles or bank accounts but by something far more sacred. Future generations hang in the balance. Whether we speak out or remain silent, act or step back will create the inheritance we bequeath.

Rev. Bill Shuler is pastor at Capitol Life Church in Arlington, Virginia.




Thursday, October 08, 2009

so, today, i realized that really truely - i love having a 5yo daughter!  ok - 98% of the time i do, anyway.  there are always those moments, but she is so much fun!  cute, loving, adoring, creative, imaginative, spunky and of course a little sassy.  but i love her!  so much. 

in case you were wondering, she's been growing like.a.weed this year.  on her 5th birthday (august 12th) she weighed in at 17.2kg (38lbs - 36th percentile) and was a whopping 112.2cm (44.2in -81st percentile) tall.  tall and slim - just like her dad!  she has officially grown out of all her clothing we brought from america and now wears all japanese clothing.  totally random, totally colorful, totally fun for a 5yo!  one thing i love about japan - you can literally wear any combination of clothing and nobody blinks an eye.  its awesome!

so, we're half way through jimmy's two month absence.  wishing every minute that it would go by quicker and he'd be home sooner.  the longer you're with someone, the more you grow to love them - so true.  i miss him deeply.  but, we're surviving!  and kayla and i have really bonded - in a good way.  of course, there are a few pros to the hubby being away... fewer dishes, less recylcing to sort, less laundry, the house is definitely more orderly.  but i'd rather have him any day to those advantages.

last weekend was the youchien's undokai (kindergarten sports day).  400+ adorable 3, 4 and 5 year olds + their families brought the total up to more than 2000 people at the event!  so much fun!  here are a few snap shots...

the glorious obento - yes, this was about 12:30am...


getting ready to head out!


sea of kiddos... (each class wears a different colored hat)


getting ready to RACE!


getting ready for OUR race!


yup - that's right - a "big pants" race.  nice!


lunch break with mei-chan, of course!


the older kids doing gymnastics tricks!


getting ready to race for Bara gumi (Kayla's class)!!


about to start the closing ceremony...


more pictures on facebook.  enjoy!  and good night...


Sunday, September 27, 2009

what?!  two blogs in a week's span?!  i know, i know.  unbelieveable!  but sometimes i wonder if anyone out there still reads this thing... echo, echo, echo...?

so, my reason for another blog.  i've been mulling around in my head for some time now, the idea of starting a chore list / allowance program for kayla.  but something about giving her an allowance has always made me cringe.  i never got one growing up.  and no, i never felt gyped.  i always have felt like being apart of the family means you help out - whether or not you get an allowance.  and i think starting some kind of program with kayla could be a valuable lesson in training her to make good choices.  but trying to sort all of this out into a plan that made sense was where i've been struggling.

so, i googled a great resource - dave ramsey - on money and kids.  i love his ideas! 
(1) start early - better to make a $10 mistake than a $10,000 one later, right!?
(2) pay a commission - teaching kids how to earn money.  part of the real world, right?! 
(3) do not pay your kids an allowance - after all, money doesn't grow on trees, right?!

and here's what i came up with.  plan to chat it over with my man in the morning (via skype, since he's in america) and put it in action asap...

:: kayla can choose when/how often to do the following chores, earning a star (10yen = 10cents) each time she completes one appropriately.
:: pay day will be each week (tallying up her stars for a total amount).
:: each pay day, she will divy up her earnings into three envelopes - give, save, spend (as she gets older i'd like to add, long term savings & gifts, but for now i'm keeping it simple).
:: chore list ... *fold & put away kitchen towels *dust living & bed rooms *clear the table after dinner*clean up toys & books *put away clean silverware

thoughts?


Wednesday, September 23, 2009

ok, so yes - i know, i know.  its been forever since my last update.  here's the problem.  i have a lot going on inside this head/heart of mine.  sometimes the thought of sorting it out into the written word is overwhelming.  plus, life has been nothing short of BUSY lately (more on that later).  and of course, dearest ashley has been somewhat distracting in her nightly calls to see if i want to watch "just one episode" of Chuck.  but Chuck is finished, the kiddo is in bed, its not obscenely late and i've procrastinated long enough, so here it goes...

here's a quick rundown (with photos) of the last month and a half.

so many summer festivals - first one, with dear sweet mei-chan (kayla's best friend).


warm weather brought many hours at the park - one rousing game of tag with daddy.


i chose this b/c i look at it and can't believe how grown up kayla looks here.  *sigh*


youchien summer festival - our very own school's festival.  so much fun!
asher, katherine, mariana, kayla (the only foreigners in our school of over 400+ kids)

face painting, by yours truely!

chika sensei (3yo school nurse), arai sensei (k's teacher last year), classmate, mei-chan (bestie), kayla

yup, definitely my child!


august brought our 2 week summer vacation and a long awaited visit from GRANDMA AND GRANDPA!!










and of course, k's 5th birthday (gulp!)...


celebrating with our friends (kayla, katherine and mei-chan all turned 5 within a month of each other)


and several fun days/evenings with jimmy's basketball buddy and his adorable family...






and some fun playdates with mei-chan...



lis' birthday and too much shabu-shabu.  ugh!  we were stuffed!!


family dates ... (first 3D movie!)



cooking parties with my students...


mexican food and silliness with our old co-worker, kanno sensei...


and the sign that summer is nearly over... our sunflowers in full bloom.


shout out to uncle josh - who turns the big 3-0 next week!  LOVE YOU UNCLE JOSH!


ok, so now that you are photo satisfied (if not, be-friend me on facebook for more picture goodness), its time to unload a little...

we were thrilled to have my parents come and visit this summer.  however, during their visit, jimmy and i were working through some major decisions. 

:: first off, my blood pressure was WAY high (thank you mom for bringing your blood pressure cuff along to japan!!) and that was a huge concern.  good news is that its back to normal now - still on meds every day and am due for another check up in a month. 
:: second, trying to get some peace on what to do about jimmy and work.  he's been out of regular work since february.  we'd saved quite a bit of money to cover bills for several months, but that was running out = stress.  we finally made the decision to have him go back to america for 2 months and work.  once the decision was made, we both had tremendous peace about it.  follow His peace, right?  i'm not gonna lie - it definitely hasn't been easy, but its been good.  he's had steady work, which will enable us to pay off a huge portion, if not all of our outstanding debt.  hallelujah!  let me just say, that is freeing.  so, in the mean time, i'm playing single working mom in japan. certainly not an easy mantel but i have had such support from my team members here.  its been a huge blessing and i'm forever grateful. 
:: third, we were wrestling with the the impending decision of whether or not to stay a third year or come home.  both options seemed to have plenty of pros and cons.  we waited a bit to see how my blood pressure panned out.  but it seems that we both feel that, yes, we should stay a third year.  while that brings some sadness (i still haven't met my nephew and niece - about to turn a year old), it also brings relief.  having made a decision and starting to see how God has worked in our lives thus far, i know its right. 

so, if that's not enough to wear one's mortal mind out...

on a more serious note.  my sister sent me a parenting book a while back and i've been very slowly reading through it.  yes, slowly - only in chapter 2.  but its been digging into the depths of my soul.  i've been struck by how much God has been teaching me about LIFE by my reading of one marriage book and one parenting book.  how much i have yet to learn about how i love people.  i fall so short so often.  its humbling.  and enlightening.  and totally challenging.  wow.  i've realized with jimmy gone, that i so often allowed myself to become annoyed by little things - often pushing kayla off on him so i could "deal" with whatever it was.  being the only one here for these two months and not having that option has opened my selfish, stubborn, unloving eyes to how i was treating kayla!  and how that not only affects her, but those around me.  so unfair.  this parenting book talks about the three levels of authority each parent holds, with the most impacting being relational authority.  think grace.  "Relational authority means having a sufficiently caring relationship with your child so as to naturally and significantly influence him."  think about it in relation to us and our child, us and our co-workers, us and our spouse, us and friends, us and Jesus... "Our hearts are warmed as we increasinlgy realize the depths of His grace and goodness.  His love ultimately influences us to live for Him who died for us.  This is relational authority... Love leads to trust ,which leads to influence."  wow.  do you get it?  i'm still trying.  this concept has revolutionized my every day life.  hence, only on chapter 2 of the book. 

anyway.  i think that's enough of an update for today ... i should lesson plan a bit for tomorrow.  we've had a lovely 3 extra days off this week (gotta love national holidays in japan), but tomorrow we're back at it.  and i'd like to hit the week running, not stumbling! 

good night. 





Tuesday, August 04, 2009

officially on summer break. my parents are here visiting - tons of fun! also, found out that my blood pressure is EXTREMELY high (210/120 at the doctor yesterday). feeling some stress about various issues - that included. but thankful God is BIG. will post pictures soon... fun times here! love vacation!



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WISH LIST
Many of you have asked me to post a wish list of things we'd love to have sent to us while in Japan. Here's a start... *tapioca *instant fruit & cream oatmeal *poptarts *books for k *ghirardelli brownie mix *cake mix *peanut butter *chocolate chips *seasoning packets (ie: creamy garlic alfredo sauce, guacamole)